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The Power of Daily Affirmations for Building Self-Love and Self-Worth
When living in a world that is so deeply rooted in social media and personal image, it can be hard to turn off that constant comparison in your head, even when you put your phone down.
Social media has made it very hard to differentiate what is reality and what is not and it has caused a lot of suffering for many people.
A powerful tool that can be used for good has caused many to lose their sense of worth and confidence.
Something I have found to help keep me grounded and rooted in who I am has been focusing on how I talk to myself and treat myself daily.
I always say, if you wouldn’t talk to your friend the way you talk to yourself, there is an issue that needs to be fixed.
Insert daily affirmations!
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What Are Daily Affirmations?
Daily affirmations are positive statements that help train your brain both consciously and unconsciously to focus on a goal.
That goal can be anything from work-related to self-esteem related.
The goal of these powerful mantras are to overcome that negative voice we all have in our heads, in addition to diminishing self-sabotaging behaviours or thoughts.
Instead of focusing on negativity within ourselves, we are redirecting our focus to positivity.
When we focus on speaking positively about ourselves, we re-train our brain to work for us instead of against us.
This mental shift has such a profound affect especially if you suffer from a mental illness such as depression, anxiety, OCD, and more.
How to Incorporate Affirmations Into Your Daily Routine
A great way to start incorporating positive affirmations into your life, is by first committing.
Focus on the next seven days to make it a point to create a routine in the morning that lets you focus on your intentions and start your day on a positive note.
When you wake up, avoid checking your phone first thing. Instead go to your bathroom and while brushing your teeth (or doing whatever it is that you do right in the morning), focus on what your intention is for the day and a goal you have for yourself.
Make sure you are standing in front of a mirror!
When you have set your intention, think of a mantra that goes with that intention. See some examples below!
Whatever mantra you have chosen (there is no right or wrong), repeat it 3-5 times while looking at yourself in the mirror.
Focus on your breath in-between reciting your affirmation.
Once you have completed, go and drink 8oz of water before consuming anything else.
Continue to focus on your intention, and then carry on about your day!
Examples of Powerful Affirmations
25 examples of some powerful affirmations are:
I choose to let go of negative self-talk.
I am strong, I am beautiful and I am worthy of all good things in life.
I am capable of anything I set my mind to.
I love and accept my true self.
I choose to forgive myself and let go of any past mistakes.
I set healthy boundaries and take time to focus on myself as needed.
I choose to let go of all things I have no control over in my life.
I am committed to choosing me, each and every day.
I am committed to saying no to things that no longer serve me.
I am prioritising my emotional, mental, and physical health today.
I choose to live my best life.
I deserve to feel loved and to feel happy.
I am in charge of how I feel and today I choose happiness.
I am love.
I am compassion.
I radiate positive energy.
Today is filled with endless possibilities and I am worthy of all.
Today is amazing and things are going to happen for me.
I am beautiful.
I believe in my abilities.
I have the power to change my story.
I use my failures as a stepping stone.
No one can make me feel inferior.
I breathe in peace and breathe out fear.
Today I let go of self-criticism.
Feel free to write down your own and put them on sticky notes around your home!
Have them serve as a constant reminder of your commitment to caring for yourself and loving on yourself!
As women we wear many different hats: partner, mother, daughter, co-worker, friend, carer, coach, teacher, motivator, nurse, homemaker, driver. Our days can become never ending ‘to-do lists’ and trying to meet everyone needs.
By the time we finally sit down at the end of a long day, we’re too exhausted to be creative or make a decision beyond ‘shall I have a chocolate chip cookie or a jaffa cake?’
Then we feel guilty as we’ve promised ourselves we will eat no chocolate so that we fit back into our summer wardrobe! Sound familiar?
Or maybe the list is over-whelming and you don’t know where to begin. Quite frankly for a couple of years I had a daily fight with ironing.
I know it is ridiculous – and I never won, because no matter how much I wanted to beat that ironing mountain, on the very rare occasion I got to the bottom of it, the very next day it started again.
For the record. THIS IS NO WAY TO LIVE!!
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It sounds trivial who could be bothered by ironing? Yet I would see this pile every day and it was a reminder that I hadn’t achieved all that I had set out to do the day before. That no matter what was on my list for that day, I probably wouldn’t succeed.
This inner struggle wasn’t really about the ironing, it simply acted as a symbol for me, that I wasn’t good enough, that I couldn’t cope. This mindset is incredibly negative and damaging.
After a few years of soul searching and exhaustion, I realised I needed to change my thinking and adopt practical solutions.
I got help, my husband’s and son’s shirts are professionally ironed.
It’s relatively inexpensive and saves me a couple of hours per week! The professionals do a far superior job and I do not resent the time I’ve given up. GAME CHANGER.
I taught my older children how to iron.
I iron a lot less, I simply don’t iron half of what I used to. I fold and give the pile of laundry to whoever it belongs to put away. If I have sorted the washing, put it in the machine, hung it out and folded it, (rarely ironed) someone else can at least put it away.
The ironing pile, it is out of sight, it taunts me no more.
I allocate maybe an hour a week now to ironing (maximum), rather than an hour a day. I have saved SIX hours right there.
Once I was in the correct headspace I could see the potential of changing my daily lifestyle and replacing it with a daily routine that included ME TIME!
This is what we all need to do, understand and find way to manage our time. Adopt practical solutions and understand you may be spending more money but you are buying more time!
Once we have the time, think carefully how you spend it.
I found the time! My youngest was a baby then and come naptime the temptation for me, was to collapse and do nothing. I would make a cup of tea and switch on the TV for an hour.
After finally coming to terms with the ironing mountain, I rewarded myself with TV!! Any TV, probably rather dreadful TV, but if I am being honest I did look forward to it. Sometimes, I’m embarrassed to say, it was definitely the highlight of my day.
The thing is when we get to this point we can be pretty close to running on empty and convincing ourselves that providing we are meeting everyone’s else expectations, our own passions, interests and dreams can become forgotten. Now I had found the time I needed to use it to best serve me.
This is where I was about six years ago. I had been a full-time mum for twenty years, (with a small gardening business) and after someone asked me how I spent my free time, I genuinely struggled to come up with anything.
Even the things that I loved to do: cooking and gardening, they had become part of my day, things I had to do. Rather than things I enjoyed and relaxed doing.
It was a starting point for me to examine my life more and work out what I wanted to do, how was I going to carve back some ME TIME.
I decided ME TIME wasn’t meeting up with my friends, that to me is essential and separate from what I’m talking about here. Socialising with our friends be it a coffee, a drink, a walk or a weekend away are important, vital!
ME TIME is about that nag at the back of your mind, when you’re lying awake at night, thinking there must be more to life. It is remembering the dreams we had and finding ways to explore these yearnings.
I’ve yet to meet a mum who can understand where all the time has disappeared to since she had a baby. It simply doesn’t come back. We need to reassess how we spend our days and prioritise.
I cannot magic you more than 24hours a day, but I want you to really understand where those 24 hours go.
Also think about how you would spend free-time if you had it. (It can be tempting to scroll endelessly through our phones, or put the television on, but these won’t nourish you).
I promise you if you start making time for yourself you’ll feel better and this will have a knock on effect on those around you.
Often, others can see women at home with their children, many juggling jobs as well, and think they can’t or shouldn’t want anything else. ‘They have enough to do.’ I would argue our society quite likes us to feel like this, it stops us getting ideas!
When our lives are full it is when we most need to find our own time. We should never be running to empty, not even close. A bath, maybe a good way to finish an exhausting day, but you need more in life than a good soak to look forward to. (Also use the lock on the door, or you’ll be pestered constantly).
I believe we must grow and move forward. Nurturing ourselves, benefits all around us. Communicating how we feel to those that love us is so important. It can easily become a competition of whose had the most uninterrupted sleep or who went out last.
By making our partners aware how much we need time for ourselves it can be the most important step we make in finding time for ourselves and ultimately become happier.
If you’re a single mum or dad is rarely at home, reach out to extended family and/or also your friends. Consider looking after each other’s children once or twice a week. Make it a fixed part of your routine.
Once our children grow up, and time may at last seem more plentiful, it is our confidence that can stop us from trying out new things. It may be a long time since we have learnt a skill or taken up a creative course.
Please try something new, you may not enjoy it at first, especially if you’re out of your comfort zone. Remember this is normal but remember also that you owe yourself to give it a chance.
Learning new skills can be intimidating especially if we’re in a group environment. Yet it is vital that we listen to ourselves and if you have always wanted to paint, sign up for a class. I think you’ll love it, but seriously, what is the worse thing that could happen?
You create a painting that you’re unhappy with, (I’m positive your teacher will find elements that they like and will be encouraging) you may have to go back next week and start again, maybe you even get paint on your jumper.
YOU can cope with this!
Worse possible outcome is you not going to that paint class and never finding out that you love painting, just like you knew you would.
Another possible outcome, five years from now you sell your first painting, in a local exhibition, it gets posted online and someone calls who loves your painting and asks could you do something similar for them.
This is how we make life interesting. Think of the skills you have learnt on the way, the like-minded people you may meet and where this one six week class may lead.
It is exciting, isn’t it?
Right now I’m offering a free two week course, for you to do at home, where you document how you spend your day and how it makes you feel.
By the end of the two weeks, I hope you understand how you can carve out time for yourself each day and also have a small challenge in place.
Let me know how you get on and when I hear back from five amazing women who have signed up to a new challenge in their lives, I’ll sign up for that painting course I just spoke about – I’m about to finish a course on nutrition, so there will be room for something new!!
My email is [email protected] Simply leave your name and email and I’ll ping over the course. It is as simple as that.
After finishing the blog today, I had a quick look at my Instagram account @grace_and_live_well and this was the first post of the day!
‘If you use your time well, you have more time for making your difference in life. That’s why we’re all here’.
How perfect is that?!
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Black Mirror is described as ‘an anthology series exploring a twisted, high-tech multiverse where humanity’s greatest innovations and darkest instincts collide’ by IMDb.
Set in a world only minutes from our own, Black Mirror unveils how modern technologies can backfire and be used against their makers, every episode set in a slightly different reality with different characters combating different types of technologies.
This Netflix series has to be one of my favourite of all time.
With 5 seasons and a total of 22 episodes (most over an hour long each), Black Mirror has kept me entertained for so long.
I’ve even rewatched the majority of them.
One of my favourite things about this series is that each episode is completely different.
They each have new characters, a new setting, a new time but all share one common theme, a future where technology takes over.
I also love how the series is so unique to anything else I’ve ever watched before and I couldn’t even begin to think of another programme to compare it to.
With 30 awards and 85 nominations, Black Mirror is a series you can’t afford to miss out on.
Yes, I know you’ve probably all heard of this show by now but if you haven’t managed to give it a watch yet, here’s me telling you to!
According to IMBd, this documentary shows how ‘a rivalry between big cat eccentrics takes a dark turn when Joe Exotic, a controversial animal park boss, is caught in a murder-for-hire plot’.
In the stranger-than-fiction documentary, Joe Exotic, a mulleted, gun-toting polygamist and country western singer presides over an Oklahoma roadside zoo.
Joe and an unbelievable cast of characters including drug kingpins, conmen, and cult leaders all share a passion for big cats and the status and attention their dangerous menageries gather.
But things take a dark turn when Carole Baskin, an animal activist and owner of a big cat sanctuary, threatens to put them out of business, starting a rivalry that eventually leads to Joe’s arrest for a murder-for-hire plot, and reveals a twisted tale where the only thing more dangerous than a big cat is its owner.
This series has 8 episodes which are each around 40 minutes long, so although it’s not the most time-consuming of programmes, it’s definitely a must-watch!
After watching the first season last year, I was hooked and have been waiting for a follow up ever since (the last episode cliff-hanger was almost too much for me).
Christina Applegate and Linda Cardellini (yes, she played Velma in some of the Scooby-Doo movies) both do an amazing job as the main characters to this Comedy Drama, even with some wacky elements to the story line.
This series focuses on a powerful friendship that blossoms between a tightly wound widow and a free spirit with a shocking secret.
You just won’t be able to get enough of it, I promise!
Although, I am yet to begin my adventure onto season 2 of this drama, I can not wait and I am already certain it will not disappoint.
I’m planning on purchasing Dr Kawashima’s Brain Training as my next game to improve my productivity during lockdown and as a throwback to when I used to play it as a child.
2. Apple iPad Pro
Since starting my first proper year at university in September, I realised how much the use of an iPad could benefit me.
After doing some research about my course, I found that one of the latest iPad Pros were most suitable as they include special design features (including Apple Pencil compatability) that would help my graphic design.
This was my intention for the purchase of my iPad and its capability goes above and beyond what I need of it.
However, the UK lockdown has made me realise its many other great uses.
They are so powerful the image quality is outstanding when watching anything on them.
I often opt for Netflix or one of the on-demand channels. More recently, I’ve reverted back to my youth and have been hooked to Disney+ for more than a few hours.
Other uses for my iPad include pretty much all my university coursework, there are so many useful apps at your fingertips.
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And finally, I’ve recently begun using Zoom to group call my friends for virtual quizzes or just some catch up time.
The iPad works very well with this software and is just the perfect size to fit about 8-10 people on your screen at once.
3. Adult Colouring Books
I’ve never really been that big of a fan of colouring within the lines but, since the lockdown, I’ve found I have so much time on my hands I don’t know what to do with it.
Then there’s the added worry, stress and/or anxiety a lot of people are struggling with in these uncertain times.
Adult colouring books have been a great solution for me.
There are so many varieties of books to choose from, from simpler cartoon style designs to intricate patterns.
I’ve found the more detailed patterned designs to be the most therapeutic, and there is a lot of scientific evidence to back these claims.
Aside from relaxing, I’ve found these colouring books to be perfect for when you’ve got spare 10 minutes, when I’m waiting for dinner to cook, for example.
You can just grab the book and get to work on what ever you fancy.
Reading something you enjoy is an important part of our everyday development and down-time.
With so much time on our hands at the moment, it would almost be criminal to not spend an hour or so diving into a juicy read.
For me, I’ve found this time is perfect for going around the home and spring-cleaning where necessary.
In my bedroom alone, I’ve opted for an entire declutter and turned the whole room upside down!
To help me with this side project, I enlisted the help of decluttering gurus far and wide.
In recent years, there has been a wave of books in this category, each author with their own wacky method to minimalist living.
One of my personal favourites is Marie Kondo’s KonMari method for condensing your belongings.
There are so many books out there that can help you with clearing out and doing the most with the space you have.
Being confined to your home for so many hours of the day, it is important to embrace and enjoy the space that you live it.
Below are the books I recommend to help you with this.
5. Jigsaw Puzzles
A jigsaw puzzle is the classic solution to a rainy day, I don’t think I know a family who didn’t bring their puzzles with them on every camping and caravaning expedition.
Puzzles are an all-round crowd pleaser, they increase productivity whilst being super fun.
I also love that depending on your home situation, you can spend hours doing this by yourself, or get the entire household involved.
Another thing great about jigsaws is that you can spend as long as you like on them.
You could buy one massive 10,000 piece puzzle and continue working on it throughout the rest of the lockdown.
I would recommend putting together the corners and edges first, and make sure to find a place you can keep your progress where it won’t get damaged.
My mom always suggests under the rug.
6. Exercise and Workout Equipment
For the gym goers out there, I know it can be tough times.
All the gyms and fitness centres are closed for the foreseeable future and you need your next fix of gym gains.
Although a lot of people aren’t as fortunate as me to have a home gym, there are plenty of other options out there to keep yourself in shape without forking out on expensive equipment.
For myself, I like to put a focus on my core workouts and this is why I recommend the first product below so highly.
Others could opt for resistance bands, ankle weights or even a small set of dumbbells or kettlebells.
Working out at home doesn’t have to break the bank and once you buy these small items of equipment, you will have them for as long as they are of use.
You never know, you could end up cancelling your gym membership for good once you get into it.
7. Streaming Services
To accompany the iPad, of course you’re going to want subscriptions to streaming services.
In the last few years, streaming apps and websites have taken over from live TV.
I can’t really remember the last time I sat down and actually flicked through the TV guide.
The amount of content online is unlimited so there is something for everybody, I think this is why streaming companies are so popular right now.
And what better way to spend your time stuck at home than cuddling up with a new series that you know you’ve got hours of binge watching with.
Of course my first choice in the world of streaming apps is Netflix, there is just an abundance of films and TV series and I love that they are always bringing out new content.
They have a variety of everything but I feel that they really out do themselves with their documentaries.
So if you want to learn something new during the pandemic, maybe this one is for you!
My final recommended streaming service is one that you don’t actually have to subscribe to.
Rakuten TV is perfect for those who don’t want to commit to monthly payments or simply can’t afford to.
They offer masses of films and TV series and are often the first to release new films straight from the cinema.
There are so many options with Rakuten TV, you can purchase films and series that you can keep on your account forever, or you can rent things to watch at a cheaper price.
They even have a section for all their free to watch content.
8. A Label Maker
Okay now this choice might seem a bit wacky but here me out. We’ve got all this time, stuck at home, why not get organised?
As a child, I remember my dad buying a label maker and I was fascinated by it. Of course the cheaper alternative would be to just use sticky label and a pen but there is something so satisfying about using this cute little printer.
So why not invest in this budget friendly machine and have hours of organising fun!
I’d start with the glass jars in my kitchen, containing sugar, flour etc. But if you really get carried away, you could find yourself labelling pretty much anything.
These are also a great idea for those of you with a home office.
I imagine many have had to make a mini office in their home to continue working during the pandemic.
Well a label maker is perfect for sorting through all your files.
9. Sewing Machine
Everyone needs a new hobby during the lockdown, and there are so many to choose from.
You could start learning a new language, start knitting, reading more, or even gardening. A fun and practical hobby I’ve found is sewing.
Once you’re equipped with your own little machine there are endless possibilities to what you can create.
I recommend trying to steer away from fast fashion and revamping some of your old clothes up. This is also a great way to become more sustainable in these unknowing times.
If you like the idea of getting in to sewing, you could simply opt for a needle and thread, or the classic Quality Streets tin with all the cotton reels and pins.
But investing in a sewing machine can be so much faster and more efficient.
Not to mention so much easier when it comes to hemming and doing different stitches.
I recommend this mini sewing machine below. It is more compact than some of the other bulkier models which is great for space saving, and is great value for money.
10. Baking or Cooking Equipment
Another hobby idea, get baking! Or cooking, whichever takes your fancy.
I’m more of a Mary Berry kind of girl but you never know, you could end up coming out of lockdown with skills like Gordon Ramsay.
Depending on what you want to do in the kitchen, there are lots of different equipment and utensil sets.
Yes a lot of these things will probably already be in your kitchen but there’s always that one recipe that requires something unusual. I never have any ceramic baking beans!
So get searching online, or through the recipe books you already have, and find some things you want to learn to make.
I’m sure no members of your household will be complaining about all the tasty cakes you’ve made.
I do not promote or encourage leaving your home unnecessarily, at this time. Please, if you would like to purchase anything inspired by this list do it online. Amazon is a great way to shop online, as well as many other retailers at your fingertips.